A daughter’s way of carrying her parents’ silent love forward
An eighteen-year-old participant told us about a wooden platform her father had built with his own hands, a place for her mother to grow all her favourite flowers and plants.
Whenever he had time, he would join her there, planting another flower, watering the pots, tending to what she loved.
“My parents never said ‘I love you’ to each other,” she said, “but I understood this silent love through the language of flowers.”
She and her mother had joined us for a two-day workshop in China. They arrived quietly, a little shy. As we got to know them, we learned that her father had died of a heart attack. Life had continued, but they were still carrying the sorrow of his absence.
Over the two days, we witnessed moments of tenderness between them. Looking into each other’s eyes, they began to cry. As they shared more, the daughter told us how her father would peel walnuts for her mother when she was pregnant. Like the wooden platform and the flowers, it was another quiet way of saying “I love you.”
Later, rose petals lay around our altar, illuminated by candlelight. In that space, the mother and daughter held each other, tears shining in their eyes. Together, they wrote him a love letter, expressing their love, how much they missed him, and their gratitude for the joy they had shared.
Their grief was still there. Alongside it, there was room for a smile, for closeness, and for love to find new expression.
Two weeks later, the daughter sent us a message. She had decided to cut 40 cm of her hair and donate it to children who had lost theirs during cancer treatment. She spoke of her hair as something her parents had given her, and of wanting to pass that love on.
For us, their story was a reminder that love can continue to connect us, even through absence. And that the time we have together, the ordinary moments we share, is a precious gift.
It also invited us to notice the quiet ways love is already present in ordinary moments, in our relationships, and to give it words, time and attention.
When we look at the person beside us, have we told them how much they mean to us? Have we thanked them for the ways they care for us? Have we given ourselves time to meet each other beyond our familiar roles and routines?
Perhaps there is something you have been meaning to tell your beloved. Something you appreciate but rarely say. Or perhaps you simply long for time together, away from the demands of everyday life.
Our Couples Weekend Workshop: A Deeper Journey into Love is an invitation to make that space. Over two days, we explore listening, connection and practices you can bring home into your life together.
Our November workshop is now sold out, and spaces are still available for 5–6 December in Amsterdam.
Give yourselves a weekend to express your love, receive each other’s care, and feel close again.
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Longing for more time together?
Our True Nature of Love Foundation retreat in Thailand, 23–29 January 2027, and Costa Rica, 14-20 March, offers a full week to slow down and reconnect with yourselves and with each other.
If you are dreaming of a meaningful holiday with your beloved, we invite you to join us for a week of practice, discovery and connection. A chance to meet each other with fresh eyes, make room for tenderness, and explore the love you continue to create together.
Thailand · 23–29 January 2027
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Costa Rica · 14–20 March 2027
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You are also warmly welcome to book a complimentary call with us to share what you are looking for and explore whether the retreat feels right for you.
With love,
The Tantra School of Love team
